Shame is a heavy emotion. It lurks in the shadows, hidden beneath layers of self-protection, fear, and silence. Unlike guilt, which acknowledges wrongdoing and allows for repair, shame convinces us that we are the flaw—that we are unworthy of love, connection, and belonging. In psychotherapy, shame can be difficult to access because it thrives in secrecy. Clients may not even be consciously aware of how deeply shame has shaped their behaviors, relationships, and self-perception. This is where Reiki, a gentle energy-healing practice, can be a profound ally in the therapeutic process. Reiki provides a nonverbal, somatic bridge to the unconscious, helping to illuminate shame without retraumatization. Understanding Shame Through the Nervous System From a Polyvagal Theory perspective, shame often activates the dorsal vagal response, leading to collapse, withdrawal, and dissociation. When someone is stuck in shame, their nervous system registers it as a profound threat, making it difficult to engage in talk therapy alone. They may intellectually understand that their shame is rooted in past experiences, yet their body continues to hold onto it as a felt sense of unworthiness. Reiki-assisted psychotherapy works with this dysregulated nervous system state, allowing clients to process shame gently and safely. By offering energetic support, Reiki can:
Shame thrives in isolation, telling us we must hide parts of ourselves to be accepted. Reiki, as a practice of unconditional acceptance and presence, disrupts this narrative. In a Reiki-assisted psychotherapy session, clients experience a nonjudgmental, compassionate space where their energy is met exactly as it is—without expectation, without shame. As Reiki flows through the body, it has a way of revealing where shame is stored. Clients may feel sensations in their throat, chest, or solar plexus, areas commonly associated with suppressed emotions and self-expression. Rather than pushing through resistance, Reiki allows these blockages to soften, inviting a sense of warmth, spaciousness, and possibility. The energy of Reiki also helps shift clients out of shame’s contracted, frozen state and into a more fluid and expansive awareness. Many report feeling lighter, as if a weight has been lifted—because in a very real way, it has. Releasing Shame and Reclaiming Wholeness Healing shame is not about erasing the past or bypassing difficult emotions. It is about bringing light to what has been hidden, so it no longer holds power over us. When we acknowledge and integrate the parts of ourselves that have been shrouded in shame, we reclaim our wholeness. In Reiki-assisted psychotherapy, this process unfolds not through force, but through presence. Reiki does not demand; it simply offers. It does not judge; it simply witnesses. And in that witnessing, healing happens. If you have been carrying shame that feels too deep to access or too painful to face alone, know that there is a way forward. Reiki can be a gentle guide, helping you move from the darkness of shame into the light of self-acceptance.
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AuthorJodi K. Silverman is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Reiki Master whose mission is to support and guide human beings in their journey for meaning, purpose and connection. Archives
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