I recorded this video just for you.
Press play when you have a few quiet minutes.

Your system may be saying,
"If everyone is okay with me, I'll be okay."

So you people-please, over-explain, and steer around conflict. You might feel responsible for how everyone else feels, and saying no can feel almost impossible.

Caring about people is one of your gifts. The hard part is that someone being disappointed in you may feel much scarier than it really is.